Motherhood… is there anything more fulfilling yet completely exhausting?
We work hard as mothers and we spend a lot of time and energy pouring out all of ourselves for others. But we also need to spend some time pouring back into us to recharge and refresh ourselves so that we can be the absolute best wives, mothers, sisters, or daughters to our families.
Here are 10 of my personal favorite ways to recharge and refresh myself so I can better serve my family.
1. Read God’s Word
While this is the obvious choice, sometimes it’s not our first choice. Sometimes our eye lids are so heavy that the minute we start to read a passage in Scripture, sleep takes over. This is why I have invested in a few small devotional books that I have laying around the house. I like devotional books that are centered on God’s Word and have the Bible passages printed in them removing the effort of having to look it up in my Bible.
Now before you start to question me let me say that yes, I absolutely think it should be a priority to be in God’s Word every day, but sometimes you just need a quick pick me up or an encouraging passage. That’s why devotional books fit the bill; Short, concise, to the point, encouraging and refreshing.
2. Phone Home
Sometimes nothing is more encouraging then calling your own mom (depending on your relationship) when things feel hard. You can cry, share your frustrations and know that she has been through it too.
Now I realize not everyone has a relationship with their mothers to where they would be comfortable doing this, or perhaps you own mother is no longer living. Consider a trusted aunt, family member or an older woman from your church. Someone who is wise and has gone through the battle and came out on the other side. Someone who you feel safe sharing with and who has wisdom to offer you insight and encouragement.
Also phone home to God throughout your day too. Don’t think that prayer has to be limited to certain times during the day when you have your prayer journal in front of you. God wants to be in fellowship with you throughout your entire day!
He is always with us, He always hears our prayers and in His own unique way, He answers them.
Several times during my day I am constantly taking a short mommy time out seeking Him with short prayers like, “Jesus I need help!” or “Lord please give me patience and soften my heart to love this child like you do.”
3. Do What You Love
Spend a few minutes everyday doing something you love whether that be reading, writing, sewing, cooking or whatever it is that you enjoy doing.
Sometimes just spending 5 to 10 minutes doing an activity that we enjoy can completely refresh us and give us a new perspective on the day.
4. Get Outside
Sit in the sun, breathe in fresh air, walk barefoot in the grass, play in the snow with the kids… it doesn’t matter. Make it a priority to get outside everyday despite the weather.
I have two little ones so depending on the weather it can be a real hassle to get outside on a daily basis (trying to get hats, gloves, and coats on toddlers is an Olympic event!) but I do try and make the effort. It makes us all feel so much better, plus the kids sleep better too which is always an added bonus in my opinion!
5. Ask for Help
Sometimes you just need a little help and you shouldn’t be ashamed to admit it. If it’s in your budget, hire a babysitter so you can get out of the house alone once in a while. Or swap childcare with another mom taking turns, one day you go out while she watches the kids or vice versa.
If you have family living nearby take advantage of fostering the relationship between grandparent and grandchild. Or arrange a time with your husband where he can come home early, go in to work late, or take the kids for a few hours on the weekend so you can do something for yourself (or just run to the grocery store by yourself because even that can feel like a vacation!)
6. Connect with a Friend
When is the last time you actually sat down and visited with a friend? I’m not talking about a quick conversation with a girl friend while passing each other in the hall on your way out of church.
I’m talking about some set aside, intentional time to sit down (either in person or on the phone) and visit with one another. Even if it takes weeks to plan a time where both of you are free, make it a priority, for both of your benefits.
Don’t take yourself so seriously. Laugh with your kids. Laugh when you do something so absent minded (like I did this morning when I accidentally through the whole bowl of chopped onion in the trash can thinking it was my trash bowl, yeah it took me a few moments to be able to laugh but it made the whole situation a bit better.)
I don’t know about you but when my kids chuckle and giggle it always improves my mood, especially wen I laugh right along with them!
8. Reflect on the Past
Feeling a little down on yourself? Take a few minutes and reflect on the past. Look through some old photo albums. Pull out the baby book or read through your child’s memory journal. I always love doing these activities and remembering good times can really have a positive impact on your day.
9. Take a Nap
You know the old advice, “Sleep when the baby sleeps!” I’ll be the first one to admit that I am not a nap person. If I fall asleep during the day I actually feel worse then I did before. But sometimes our bodies just need a little rest.
Whether it be a cat nap, a full get-back-into-bed-and-get-under-the-covers nap, or just vegging out in front of the TV while your kids take a rest, can make all the world of difference for your energy levels.
10. Indulge in a Treat
Treat yourself with your favorite sweet treat, a latte with extra whipped cream, a professional manicure or pedicure, a favorite magazine or a savory, crunchy bite if sweets aren’t your thing (I will always pick salt over sugar any day, weird I know!)
It doesn’t have to be much, and it certainly doesn’t have to be everyday but an occasional indulgence just for “mom” can really go a long way to help re-motivate, refresh and re-energize yourself.
What is your favorite way to recharge and refresh yourself when you are feeling tired, weary or worn out?